Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. – Wikipedia.com
Can I tell you a secret? yeah? okay here it goes…
I’m a very very very blessed woman. Extremely blessed. Sometimes I feel like God answers my prayers even before I ask…
I have a great family, even though we have plenty of issues, and I have wonderful friends all over the world, and I have the best friend any girl could ever wish for…
I have been blessed with scholarships and so many educational opportunities…but sometimes I wonder…
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m as amazing as many people seem to think I am. Okay actually I know I’m not as amazing as people seem to think I am. It’s always so funny when I get compliments like “oh you’re such a good writer,” and I’m tempted to say things like, “oh you know, I’m just lucky…”
Lucky? no, but blessed? yes!
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
See sometimes we get so scared that people will think that we are frauds because we don’t feel as fabulous as people seem to think we are. Or we don’t think that we are worthy of love because of our past mistakes, or because we are not as amazing as these other people who seem to have their lives together…but the truth is that most people feel like frauds. We all know that there are some things that just happen, and that there is no amount of planning that would have given us some of the opportunities we have gotten…and so they make us feel like frauds because we know we don’t deserve them…
…Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you…
I’ve been learning a lot about love lately, and the beauty of love is that no one is “worthy” of love. Love is a gift given generously and sacrificially, not based on who you are, but based on who the giver is. The giver gives out of the abundance of their love.
There are times when people say that they love us, but they turn around and hurt us. Or when people say they love us, but withdraw their “love” when they get angry. But see that’s not love. Love is unconditional…it’s not easy…it’s hard work, lot’s of effort. It can be incredibly painful, but it is patient, and regardless of the situation love never ends…
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
[Quotation by Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love)]
As single women we’re often longing to be loved, almost anxious and desperate for love. Because we’ve seen what the movies tell us about love…but then we experience true love with God and we feel like impostors, like we are not worthy, like we have made too many mistakes to be loved…But God continuously pursues us, picks us up, puts the pieces of our broken hearts and tells us that we are valuable, and priceless, and that we need not feel like impostors, because he loves us in spite of all the decisions we made in the past and all the mistakes we may make in the future…
If you can begin to see how much God loves you…your life will be changed dramatically…
And if you want to know if the one you’re dating is “the one” for you…ask yourself if the way he loves you reminds you of Jesus…
Sooo…do you ever feel like an impostor?